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I am just sitting here going WTF to myself right now. I tripped across an article on Gawker where a dude in Texas got acquitted of murdering an escort because he paid her and she left without giving up the goods, so to speak. Ol’ Dude shot her in the neck when he went to get his money back, and she died as a result.
Are you effing kidding me?! This pretty much says women are property and you can treat them however you want if you paid for them. Sorry, this is a violation of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights.
I just can’t believe this. And I cannot articulate the outrage I feel right now. Screw Texas.
So, I’ve decided to restart this blog. I guess you could say I’ve been inspired again. I saw an article earlier but with all the tornados and stuff popping up in Illinois today, I was bit too preoccupied to post my feelings. Mother Nature seems to be taking a nap for the moment and I can’t sleep, so it’s as good a time as any to write.
This little gem comes from Raw Story. After finding out that women make up 40% of the primary breadwinners in American households, Fox News had a collective cow.
Lou Dobbs asserted women earning more than their husbands was an indication of the dissolution of American society. Fox News political analyst Juan Williams agreed, describing it as a sign of the disintegration of marriage that would have negative consequences for generations to come.
Oh, but it gets better. Erick Erickson went on to say that nature itself commands that women are to be subservient to men.
“I’m so used to liberals telling conservatives that they’re anti-science,” Erickson explained. “But liberals who defend this and say it is not a bad thing are very anti-science. When you look at biology, when you look at the natural world, the roles of a male and a female in society and in other animals, the male typically is the dominant role. The female, it’s not antithesis, or it’s not competing, it’s a complementary role.”
“We as people in a smart society have lost the ability to have complimentary relationships in nuclear families, and it is tearing us apart,” he continued, adding that “reality showed” it was harmful for women to be the primary source of income in a family.
Harmful? You mean as in those uppity women thinking they can get all independent and s***?
And don’t even get me started on the anti-science part. There are lots of species where the female is the dominant figure. Meerkats and elephants are two such animals that come to mind. There are even some primates who are matriarchal. So, yeah, that is some faulty scientific understanding if you ask me.
Oh, wait I forgot, “science” is Faux News speak for Because God said so™.
We can vote. We can work. We can own property. We can be elected to office. Our bodies are ours to do with as we will. These rights have been granted to us by law. So, it comes as no surprise to me that there are men (and women) out there who are so threatened by women having rights that they are trying to take one of the most important ones away from us:
The right to govern our own bodies.
Example numero uno: The governmental assault on Planned Parenthood. For those who don’t know, and I’m not sure how anybody couldn’t know, Planned Parenthood is an organization that provides birth control and sexual reproductive education and services to low-income people and minors. Representative Mike Pence, an Indiana Republican, has sponsored a bill called Title X Abortion Providers Act which if passed would end government funding of any organization that provides abortions, either directly or indirectly. Planned Parenthood is one such organization that provides abortions. Without the funding, PP would not be able to operate. I sincerely doubt the amount of money their clients are able to pay would be enough to pay their electricity costs let alone anything else. And in light of a scandalous video that has surfaced from Live Action, an anti-choice, fetal rights, fear mongering “youth organization”, some are saying it is all the more reason to shut PP down.
Although all of these “pro-life” groups who are lobbying for the criminalization of abortion seem to forget a very important judicial case by the supreme court called Roe v Wade which granted women the right to seek an abortion. In 1973, the landmark decision by the United States Supreme Court deemed abortion a fundamental right under the United States Constitution. It made abortions legal until the point of viability, a point no one has been able to establish. Roe v Wade, along with some other cases at the time granted women autonomy over their own bodies. By denying funding for Planned Parenthood and similar organizations, the government is essentially trampling the rights Roe v Wade gave to women. It has all but been overturned.
Example numero dos: Georgia House Rep. Bobby Franklin (another fetal rights proponent) has introduced a bill in Georgia to criminalize abortion and states that any human intervention other than delivering a live fetus is a crime. Now, comes the truly horrifying part. That would mean miscarriages would also be illegal if another person, including the mother, had any hand in it. Such as the mother not taking care of herself and being under stress, both of which can cause a miscarriage. Under this bill, any miscarriage would have to be reported, whether it happen in a hospital or not, and a fetal death certificate would have to be issued. If the woman doesn’t know how it happened, it would be investigated by what some opponents are calling the Uterus Police. They’d be able to interrogate family and friends to determine how the miscarriage occurred. If a woman cannot prove there was no human intervention that caused the miscarriage, she could face felony charges.
Does anybody else besides me see the huge potential for abuse? A miscarriage can happen for any reason. And there is usually no way to know what caused it. I can see it now, some “investigator” interrogating a devastated woman in her hospital bed about her miscarriage, mind already made up that her explanation is not sufficient enough and charging her with murder. What a great way for resentful men to “get back” at us women for the Women’s Lib movement.
Because I think that’s really what it all boils down to. Some men are angry at us because they can’t oppress us anymore. And they are trying to punish us any way they can. They are literally hitting below the belt.
Last night before bed, I was perusing Facebook like I always do, and came across a status from a childhood friend of mine. It said:
“Got to love Twilight.”
And then a whole gaggle of female friends chimed in with the inevitable “Oh, yeah!”
This is insidious. I have read Twilight and New Moon. I couldn’t stomach another Edward and Bella melodrama so I have not read Eclipse and Breaking Dawn. And I have to say that if my soon-to-be husband treated me the way Edward treats Bella, I would be so out the door.
That’s the thing though. These grown women who are obsessed with the relationship between Bella and Edward cannot see how abusive it is. In real life, we would never tell our best girlfriends that if her boyfriend was ignoring her that it was just because he loved her. We would tell her to dump him! You deserve better! But because an extremely “attractive” “bad-boy” does, we swoon.
There is nothing attractive about emotional abuse, which is exactly what Edward does to Bella. He mocks her, he isolates her from her friends, he yells at her, he tells her she’s stupid. You get the picture.
So, why (WHY?!) do women like this so much? My theory is that it’s because something is missing in their real lives. They don’t see his attentions as abuse, they see it as flattering that he cares so much. And that makes them long for it in their own lives. To them, they are Bella waiting for their Edward. Some may think that too much attention is a welcome change from a guy who sits in front of the television screaming at Call of Duty all night long. Or one that goes out and parties with his friends and pays a little more attention than is appropriate to the pretty blonde waitress.
The common theme it seems to me is dissatisfied women. Women in good, solid, real relationships hardly pay any attention to Twilight, let alone other romance novels. They don’t need fantasy to fulfill a void for them. Which is what I think a lot of women use Twilight and romance novels for.
But it’s insidious. Twilight being the worst offender. In normal romance novels, the “hero” is arrogant, but the misogyny is hidden behind a thick veneer of sex and excitement. Twilight just puts it out there, front and center. It’s central to the Edward character. Edward treats Bella like an idiot because she needs protected from herself. Without big, strong Edward, Bella would have killed herself by now. And that is how Edward gets her under his thumb. Treats her like she’s an idiot and needs to be protected from herself. So, she thinks she’s the problem and he’s the solution. It’s sad, really. An entire generation of young females is being conditioned to accept emotional and mental abuse as romantic ideals. Have I mentioned how insidious I find this?